It isn't easy to be the girl who turns down said Nice Guy. It would be so much easier for us if we could fall in love and have our happy ending with Nice Guy, who tells us how great we are, how well they will take care of us, how much they love us.
The girl who turns down Nice Guy has to deal with some serious aftermath. Questions from family:"How could you not go out with Nice Guy? He's so sweet!" Questions from well meaning friends: "Are you sure you don't want to go out with Nice Guy? He's going to make a lot of money one day!" Occasionally, even questions from Nice Guy's friends: "You know Nice Guy is really devastated. No way you can make it work?"
And of course, the inevitable guilt of being the Ice-Cold-Bitch-With-No-Heart who took Nice Guy's heart and smashed it into little bitty pieces.
I would like to say on behalf of this Heartless Ice Queen, that saying no to Nice Guy isn't as easy as it may seem. Spending weeks afterwards wondering why Nice Guy can't be the one who gives you butterflies and makes you giddy, asking yourself if you had just given it a little more time, put in a little more effort, done something different if you could have made it work. But knowing all the while that you can't create sparks or force passion where none lives. And hoping that one day, some guy will come along who gives you butterflies and that at the same time he will be a nice guy as well.
Side Note: Nice Guys do not spend all their time convincing themselves and others of their Nice Guy-ness. They do not barrage you into dating them, or explaining over and over again why you won't date them. And they know that just because we aren't dating a Nice Guy now, us Heartless Ice Queens don't want to or let ourselves be treated like trash, we are just holding out for the whole package. Any guy who falls into any of these categories, well Nice Guy isn't the label I'd put him under.
